What’s Really Behind the Narcissist’s Cruelty 

by Yaseen | Mar 23, 2025 | Mental Health, Narcissistic Abuse

1. They’re Terrified of Their Own Worthlessness
   Narcissists carry a crushing sense of inadequacy deep inside. By labeling you as “worthless” or a “loser,” they’re projecting their own feelings of shame and self-loathing onto you. It’s a way to distance themselves from their own pain.
2. They’re Desperate for Control
   Sadistic abuse is a power play. By breaking you down, they feel a temporary sense of control and superiority. It’s their twisted way of compensating for their own feelings of helplessness and insecurity.
3. They’re Fueled by Envy
   Your strengths, your resilience, your ability to feel and connect—these are things they lack. Their cruelty is often rooted in envy. By destroying your self-esteem, they try to level the playing field in their mind.
4. They’re Addicted to the High of Dominance
   Narcissists get a perverse thrill from seeing others suffer. It gives them a fleeting sense of power and validation. But it’s a hollow victory—it only deepens their own emptiness.

At their core, narcissists are emotionally stunted, deeply wounded individuals. Their cruelty is a mask for their own fragility.

But here’s the truth: their words and actions are a reflection of their brokenness, not your worth. You are not what they say you are.

 Rise above their toxicity. Their abuse is their burden to carry, not yours. 

True Evil in contexts of Narcissists

by Yaseen | Mar 8, 2025 | Mental Health, Narcissistic Abuse

True evil, in the context of narcissism, can be understood as the deliberate and calculated harm inflicted by a narcissist on others, often driven by their lack of empathy, manipulative tendencies, and self-serving nature. Here are some key aspects that define this behavior:

1. Intentional Manipulation
   Narcissists often use manipulation to control, exploit, or harm others for their own gain. This can include gaslighting, lying, or playing mind games to undermine someone’s confidence or reality.
2. Lack of Remorse
   A narcissist rarely feels genuine remorse for their actions, even when they cause significant pain or damage to others. They may justify their behavior or blame the victim instead.
3. Exploitation
   They exploit others emotionally, financially, or socially, viewing people as tools to serve their needs rather than as individuals with inherent worth.
4. Destruction of Relationships
   Narcissists often sabotage relationships—romantic, familial, or friendships—by creating conflict, spreading lies, or fostering mistrust among people.
5. Emotional Abuse
   They engage in behaviors like belittling, demeaning, or invalidating others to assert dominance and erode their self-esteem.
6. Sadistic Tendencies
   Some narcissists derive pleasure from others’ suffering, whether through overt cruelty or subtle forms of control and humiliation.
7. Dehumanization
   They view others as objects or extensions of themselves, lacking genuine regard for their autonomy, feelings, or well-being.
8. Smear Campaigns
   Narcissists may launch smear campaigns to destroy someone’s reputation, isolating them from support systems and causing long-term harm.
9. Exploitation of Vulnerabilities
   They target and exploit others’ weaknesses, whether emotional, financial, or psychological, to maintain power and control.
10. Persistent Harm
    Unlike occasional selfishness or mistakes, narcissistic evil is characterized by a consistent pattern of harmful behavior without accountability or change.

True evil in a narcissist lies in their ability to cause profound harm while remaining indifferent to the pain they inflict. Their actions are often rooted in a deep-seated need for control, validation, and superiority, making them capable of significant destruction in relationships and communities. Recognizing these traits is crucial for protecting yourself and setting boundaries.

Dealing with narcissists and their “flying monkeys”

by Yaseen | Mar 4, 2025 | Mental Health, Narcissistic Abuse

Dealing with narcissists and their “flying monkeys” (enablers or supporters) can be emotionally draining. Here are some strategies to help you not take their behavior personally:

1. Understand Their Behavior
   Recognize that narcissists thrive on control, manipulation, and attention. Their laughter or mockery is a tactic to undermine your confidence and assert dominance. It’s not about you—it’s about their need for power.
2. Detach Emotionally
   Remind yourself that their actions reflect their character, not your worth. Practice emotional detachment by viewing their behavior as a performance rather than a personal attack.
3. Focus on Your Self-Worth
   Build a strong sense of self-worth independent of their opinions. Surround yourself with supportive people who value and respect you.
4. Avoid Engaging
   Narcissists feed off reactions. By not engaging or showing that their behavior affects you, you remove their power. Stay calm and composed.
5. Set Boundaries
   Limit your interactions with the narcissist and their enablers. Protect your mental and emotional well-being by creating clear boundaries.
6. Seek Support
   Talk to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide perspective and help you process your feelings.
7. Practice Self-Compassion
   Be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that you deserve respect and that their behavior is not a reflection of your value.
8. Focus on Your Goals
   Redirect your energy toward your personal growth, goals, and passions. This helps you stay grounded and focused on what truly matters.

Remember, their laughter is a reflection of their insecurities, not your worth. Stay strong, and prioritize your peace and well-being.