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When a narcissist hoovers (tries to suck you back in) or acts irrationally
When a narcissist hoovers (tries to suck you back in) or acts irrationally after you’ve gone no contact, their behavior is driven by a toxic cocktail of ego injury, panic, and psychological addiction to control. Here’s...
Toxic Shame: The Truth That Sets You Free
Toxic Shame: The Truth That Sets You Free Toxic shame isn’t yours. It’s not a reflection of who you are—it’s a psychological poison that was forced into you by someone who couldn’t face their own brokenness. Here’s how to see it clearly, so it...
Why They’re So Invested in Making You Believe You’re a “Loser”
It Maintains the Narcissist’s False SuperiorityThe narcissist thrives on feeling superior. By convincing you (and others) that you’re a "loser," they reinforce their own inflated self-image. It’s a way to mask their deep-seated insecurity and inadequacy. It Keeps You...
What’s Really Behind the Narcissist’s Cruelty
They’re Terrified of Their Own WorthlessnessNarcissists carry a crushing sense of inadequacy deep inside. By labeling you as "worthless" or a "loser," they’re projecting their own feelings of shame and self-loathing onto you. It’s a way to distance themselves from...
Why does self abuse feel soothing after narcissistic abuse
Here are some possible reasons why verbally abusing yourself might feel soothing: Internalized Shame and Self-Blame Narcissistic abuse: Years of narcissistic abuse can lead to internalized shame and self-blame. You may have absorbed the abuser's negative messages,...
True Evil in contexts of Narcissists
True evil, in the context of narcissism, can be understood as the deliberate and calculated harm inflicted by a narcissist on others, often driven by their lack of empathy, manipulative tendencies, and self-serving nature. Here are some key aspects that define this...